The Four Virtues of Stoicism Make You More Likable | E-Neighborhood Advisor

 

Inc Magazine tells us that stoics believe in four basic virtues: Wisdom: Making informed decisions. Making logical decisions, not emotional ones. Exercising discretion. Being resourceful. Doing the right thing, even when the right thing is the hardest thing. Courage: Persistence. Endurance. Industriousness. Confidence. Courage isn't the absence of fear, or anxiety, or, on the flip side, desire. Courage is the ability to do the right thing in spite of fear, anxiety, or desire -- to be the kind of person you want to be no matter what may come your way. Moderation: Self-restraint. Self-discipline. Self-control. Humility. The ability to delay gratification and make choices that place long-term goals over short-term satisfaction. Justice: Treating people fairly. Treating people equitably. Acting with integrity. Giving more than you take. As Epictetus said, "Seeking the very best in ourselves means actively caring for the welfare of other human beings." Being stoic won't make you likable; embracing the Stoic virtues will make you more likable. Most people want to work for a boss who makes informed, logical decisions -- decisions that he or she can justify. Most people want to work for a boss who cares more about doing right than being right. Most people want to work for a boss who stays cool in a crisis. And everyone wants to work for a boss who treats people fairly and equitably -- and who gives more than he or she takes. The same is true in a broader sense. Think of someone you like, respect, and admire. The words "cold," or "clinical," or "emotionless" don't come to mind. The people you like, respect, and admire remain positive in the face of adversity. They remain empathetic and thoughtful in the face of conflict. They're humble in the face of incredible success. They help other people because seeing other people succeed makes them happy. Want to be more likable? Don't be stoic. Be a Stoic. And in the process, you'll also be more successful: Stoics know what kind of person they want to be, and make decisions that help them become that kind of person. Regardless of what comes their way. Your Flooring Consultant, Matt Capell Email: sales@capellinteriors.com Phone (208) 288-0151 Fax (208) 917-6160 P.S. Here's a joke for you! René Descartes walks into a bar. The barman says, ‘Would you like a drink, sir?’ 'I think not!’ replies Descartes… and then he disappears.